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Thursday, May 6,2010

Amendment 62 assaults our sex lives

By Dr. Jenni Skyler

Anthropology demonstrates that human beings have undergone extensive lifestyle transitions, from hunting and gathering to agriculture and farming to agri-business and Wall Street shenanigans. This social evolution has led to the emergence of law and religion. Law and religion now serve big societies by providing order, values and ethical standards by which to live. At least that’s the idea.

Law and religion also get highly aroused by being voyeurs into our sex lives. They sit on the edges of our beds with binoculars, peering into everything we do and how we construct our sexual identities. Then, they put on paper everything we are not allowed to do because it will lead to the end of society. Utter and total chaos — everyone just take the high road to hell.

I exaggerate, somewhat. But law and religion would do well to take their dirty little hands out of our sex lives. Where is the crime in someone sharing sexual pleasure with another person of the same gender? Why should a couple be shamed for having sex before marriage, to test-run their sexual compatibility?

Legally, the cellular life and growth of cancer in our body is not punishable, but when it’s a zygote, it’s potentially criminal. Selling guns in Texas is acceptable, but selling vibrators can get you jail time. We permit capital punishment, but outlaw oral sex in 19 U.S. states.

The most recent assault on our sex lives comes in the form of proposed Amendment 62. Amendment 62 is a repeat of the “personhood” measure of 2008 (Amendment 48) whereby a “person” with full legal rights is defined from the moment of fertilization. Fertilization is the successful unification of sperm and egg. Preventing fertilization through birth control or wasting eggs that could fertilized via in-vitro would be considered murder. Abortion would also be considered murder — even in cases of rape, incest and to save the life of the woman.

Our legal system charges murder very seriously. This is not like being slapped with a fine for stealing a Snickers bar from King Soopers. Luckily, the previous effort to define a person in the Colorado Constitution lost in every county of the state. Seventy-three percent of voters — 1.7 million people from nearly every demographic group — rejected it.

In a press release last week, Rev. Phil Campbell, director of ministry studies at the Iliff School of Theology, stated that the government intrusion of this amendment would threaten religious freedom in Colorado. “(It can) take away a woman’s right to make decisions about her own health care with her doctor, her family, and her God,” he said.

Leslie Durgin, senior vice president of Planned Parenthood of the Rocky Mountains, declared, “Amendment 62 is bad policy, bad law and bad medicine. It was a bad idea in 2008, and it is still a bad idea now. Amendment 62 would insert the government into the personal, private health care decisions that women and their families make every single day.”

Unfortunately, proposed Amendment 62 is not the only strike our sex lives are currently enduring. Another recent attack on our sexuality included a Boulder County pre-schooler being booted out of the Sacred Heart of Jesus Catholic school because the parents were lesbians.

Sex therapist Marty Klein of, author of America’s War on Sex, claims that many legal and religious systems are waging war against sex. “Those who are trying to ‘clean up’ America say they’re fighting for a number of critical reasons: the family, marriage, morals, education, community safety. … But this isn’t really true. It’s a war against sex: sexual expression, sexual exploration, sexual arrangements, sexual privacy, sexual choice, sexual entertainment, sexual health, sexual imagination, sexual pleasure.”

At the end of the day, who we have consensual sex with is our personal business. How we express our gender, our sexual orientation and our sexual activities is our personal business. What grows in our body is our personal business. What we choose to do with our bodies, inside and out, is our personal business.

Don’t let the social system shrink your sexual voice. Don’t let Amendment 62 seize your sexual choice. Our sexuality is no one’s business but our own.

To learn more about Amendment 62, visit Protect Families Protect Choices at www.protectfamiliesprotectchoices.org.

Jenni Skyler, PhD, is a sex therapist and board-certified sexologist. She runs The Intimacy Institute in Boulder, www.theintimacyinstitute.org.

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How do you figure that Amendment 62 is assulting your sex life? or the sex life of anyone? Amendment 62 says nothing about sexual relation OR orientation.

 

Here is the official ballot title for Amendment 62-

An amendment to the Colorado Constitution applying the term 'person' as used in those provisions of the Colorado Constitution relating to inalienable rights, equality of justice and due process of law, to every human being from the beginning of the biological development of that human being.

 

Now tell me... is that bashing on your sexuality?

 

When you choose to have sex, you run the risk of getting pregnant. You've been told that since you first were told how babies were made... It may be your body, but when your actions result in a human being forming inside of you, that takes a step further than "your personal business."

 

You would not just walk up to some stranger, whom you have never met before; shoot him and get away with it. Would you? No, that is a crime. As should be killing a human being during its biological development.This is not a war against sex, it is a fight for life!

 

I am a follower of Jesus Christ, and I am supporting Amendment 62 all the way.

 

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr Suess

 

 

 

A 'person' has only one meaning in (at) law right now. That definition can be found in the law dictionaries and in the opinions of judgements. A 'person' in "America" is not of flesh and blood within the legal system...a 'person' is a fictional entity....a corporation...an ens legis. So, if one were to make a comment on the Amendment 62, please learn the legal defintions of the terms. If you read Black's Law dictionary (3rd, 4th, 6th) and look up common words, you will be amazed at the LEGAL definitions. So, what does Black's say about "Human Being"?

 

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if life dosen't begin @ conseption why use a condom?

 

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But law and religion would do well to take their dirty little hands out of our sex lives. Where is the crime in someone sharing sexual pleasure with another person of the same gender? Where is the crime in someone sharing sexual pleasure with an animal of the same gender? Why should a couple be shamed for having sex before marriage, to test-run their sexual compatibility? Why should someone be shamed for having sex with someone other than their spouse/girlfriend?

 

I'm trying to figure out what this has to do with Amendment 62. A62 outlaws abortion not premarital sex, homosexual activity, sex with horses or anything else.

 

Will, if you so wish to do the things you stated... keep it to yourself. Law and religion have been and will be around alot longer than you will. If they so state that it is not acceptable to do so, don't you think they know what they are talking about? Sex is for reproduction, yes? Can sex with a member of the same sex or with an animal reproduce a human being? No sir it cannot, I am sure you are smart enough to figure that out... Having sex with someone other than you significant other is called cheating. It is a hurtful and horrible thing to do, how would that make your girlfriend feel if she found out you had been sleeping around, caught an STD and then gave it to her? You do the math... Also, the comment about premarital sex... it is not just saying "sex outside of marriage is bad" to be overbearing and to not let people have 'fun' with their body. When one has sex with someone else, you are giving yourself away one piece at a time. It is not just a physical pleasure, but an emotional attachment as well. Many people who have had premarital sex have ended up having serious depression problems and wishing they could take it back. Your virginity is your most prized possession, designed to be given to the one person with whom you will be with forever. Sex is meant for so much more than just an occasional thrill. Just like a fire, it is amazing in certain places... however, if fire ends up on the carpet instead of in the fireplace; that's not good is it? Premarital sex is messy and hurts more than it helps. Will, if you decide to have a discussion about your sexual freedoms, I agree with Brian... Do it on the appropriate article. Like I said in my first comment, this is not a fight about sex... Amendment 62 is a fight for LIFE! Jeremiah 1:5"Before I shaped you in the womb,I knew all about you. Before you saw the light of day,I had holy plans for you:A prophet to the nations—that's what I had in mind for you."

 

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Why is it so baed to pass a law saying a person cant murder a innocent child any longer with out there being a punishment if it bothers you that bad keep your legs closed and dnt get pregnant

 

 
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