Developing a relationship with a body part (or parts) that we dont like is enormously difficult in our American culture; however, doing so may be the biggest gift we can give ourselves. You may want to help him personify his penis so that its almost like a third person in the bedroom.

Instead, start by asking if there is anything you can improve on. He may give you some pointers, then he might ask how to better his skill set. At that point you can suggest how you like to be warmed up, how you prefer the speed and pressure, and what kind of rhythm he needs to sustain for maximum pleasure or orgasm.

This year, have a little fun. Do a reverse psychological experiment with Mom and tell her you love being set up. Whatever man your mom invites to Thanksgiving, embrace him with enthusiasm. Even if hes not the top pick you would normally take home, this is a perfect opportunity to practice the art of flirting.

Welcome back to Sophisticated Sex. This week we are changing the format of the column to incorporate your most juicy, burning or embarrassing questions about sex, intimacy and relationships. To submit your questions, see contact information at the bottom of the column.

Danielle just turned 52. Her girlfriends threw her a menopause party. They gave her lubes, arousal oils, a body cream for cougars, a hot-pink vibrator, a pair of Chinese kegel balls and a one-year subscription to GQ. Danielle was psyched to start this new phase of life, armed with all the needed supplements to keep her vulva sexy and satisfied.

It was 2 a.m., and they had just returned home from a Halloween party where everyone loved their officer-andprisoner couples costumes. But their night was just getting started. Cindy had unbuttoned her coat, exposing her low-cut, striped prisoner top and short shorts.

Most recently, football star Brett Favre got stuck in a scandal of cellphone seduction. There was talk of his retirement last season, but he will never retire from these allegations. And what will he do next? Probably repent and sign up for a sex addiction clinic.

Karen kept scrupulous notes about her activities. Thats what women do. Yes, gentlemen, we keep tabs on all of you. Twenty years later we still know your names, your penis size and how many orgasms we had in your presence. No, you cannot claim credit for those orgasms.

David and Jessie do a monthly date to get waxed. At 5 p.m. they hit up happy hour for a margarita. Then they drive over to the wax salon at 6 p.m. Relaxed bodies and brains ready them for their appointments. Jessie gets a Brazilian bikini wax in one room; David does his back and shoulders in another.

Sara had no idea, having never made such a purchase. Lets just go into the shop and see what happens! A few days later, Sara and Mark found themselves at an adult store for the first time. It was packed with so many options they did not know where to start.