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Thursday, February 12,2015
“Sexual arousal is very good at diverting us from things we’re bothered by,” Dr. Ley says. “For many people, that’s fine, and it works great to let off steam. But if you’re not taking care of the real issue — loneliness, depression, stress — then the porn use can sometimes become its own problem.
Thursday, February 5,2015
My husband and I are a straight couple in our early 50s, and we’ve been married for more than 30 years. We were raised to wait for sex till we got married — this was back in the early ’80s — and we did. Our wedding night was pretty disappointing since neither of us knew what we were doing.
Thursday, January 29,2015
and I was wondering if it’s safe for me to use it in both my ass and my cunt. I would clean it in between uses/orifices, of course, and it has a flared base, so it’s safe for anal play. Can I do this or do I need to get separate toys for ass and cunt?.
Thursday, January 22,2015
I’m a straight 18-year-old girl in my first sexual relationship. Things are a little awkward, and I could chalk it up to inexperience, but here’s what I feel conflicted about: I have a vore fetish. It was a fascination for me as a young child and became a sexual thing around the time I hit puberty.
Thursday, January 15,2015
My fiancée is extremely bothered by me looking at porn. It revolves around insecurities that have gotten so bad that even other girls bother her. (We can hardly go to a beach anymore.) I don’t have any weird relationship with porn — no addiction, no violent stuff, and I look pretty infrequently.
Thursday, January 8,2015
A quick programming note: Some weeks, half the questions I get are longer than the column itself. I can jam 1,250 words into this space, provided I avoid using longer words when shorter ones are available — e.g., “gay” has one syllable, “homosexual” has five; “asshole” has two syllables, “former Arkansas governor Mike Huckabee” has twelve.
Wednesday, December 31,2014
What is your stance on maintenance sex? I’d never thought about the issue until reading Amy Poehler’s new memoir. I didn’t find anything she said controversial, and was surprised when this quote blew up in the feminist blogosphere: “You have to have sex with your husband occasionally, even though you’re exhausted.
Tuesday, December 30,2014
I’m a short guy and I need advice. I don’t want a small paragraph’s worth of advice, like you gave “Below Their League” a few years ago. I need advice beyond “Women like men taller than them, get over it!” I get it. I’m short (5-foot-2), and most women are taller than me.
Thursday, December 18,2014
One and done — and with any luck, after seeing what a big nothing peeing on someone actually is, you’ll have a change of heart and peeing on your partner will wind up on your “once in a while, if you’re good, and only after I’ve had few beers so it’s basically just hot water” list.
Thursday, December 11,2014
Some folks are gender-neutral, some are bigender, some are agender. Then there’s pangender, genderless, genderfluid and genderqueer. There’s also gender-nonconforming, genderquestioning, gender-variant, as well as genderfuck, trigender and intergender.