Savage Love

He’s bi and that’s ok; The sex could be better

Dear Dan: My BF and I have been dating for two years. He’s 21; I’m 20 (and female). When I noticed my boyfriend wanted...

Finding a play partner; Am I good at it?

Dear Dan: I’m a woman in my late 40s. In my early 20s, I married a much older man. We did all the requisite...

Is it OK to trust a liar?; Am I too horny?

Dear Dan: Gay guy here. Met a guy online. He came over. We had incredible sex and then a great conversation lasting several hours....

Questions from the Curious Minds Weekend in Toronto

I recently spoke at Curious Minds Weekend in Toronto at the Hot Docs Ted Rogers Cinema. Audience members submitted questions on cards before the...

Where does religion fit in kink?

Dear Dan: I went to Dark Odyssey Winter Fire, the big kink hotel takeover event in Washington, D.C., in February. There was one thing...

Yeasty mouth?; Navigating open relationships

DearDan: My wife and I have a decent sex life. Pretty vanilla, but we’re busy with work, chore, and life in general with two...

Looking for some spanking recreation; Turned on by getting dumped?

Dear Dan: I’m a fan from way back. A therapist told me to go out and have some fun — I’m a married woman...

Maybe your friend is the weird one; Lacking sex communication

Dear Dan: I wanted to tell you about something that happened to my friend. (Really!) She was going to bang this dude from OkCupid...

Taking one for the team?

Dear Dan: I’ve been reading your advice column in the Coast in Halifax for a while, and it seems that most solutions to relationship...

A smatter of questions

Last week, I spoke at the Wilbur Theater in Boston and the Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute in Troy, New York. Audience members submitted their questions...

Stay or go?; Do I like one more than the other?

Dear Dan: I write you from Italy, where I follow you through Internazionale. I am a guy in his 30s sexually paralyzed with his...

Put it in your spank bank, but don’t talk about it

Dear Dan: I am quite the follower on social media — Facebook and Twitter in particular. I make no trolling comments, no #MAGA hashtags;...
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