Savage Love

Can I buy your underwear?; More non-PC fantasies

Dear Dan: I’m a 49-year-old gay man. I’ve become friends with a 21-year-old straight guy. He’s really hot. He’s had to drop out of...

How do I explain my politically incorrect fantasy?

Dear Dan: I am a twentysomething, straight, cis-female expat. How long do I have to wait to ask my German lover, who is übersensitive...

Savage speaks at the “Uninhibited: About Sex” lecture series

I was honored to speak at JCCSF — Jewish Community Center of San Francisco — last week as a part of their “Uninhibited: About...

No oral; Worship fetish; Men’s feet

Dear Dan: I’m a straight woman in my early 30s, and I just don’t like receiving oral sex. I love giving blowjobs and can...

Finding non-creeps for fantasy play

Dear Dan: I’m a 27-year-old, feminist, conventionally attractive, straightish, GGG woman. Over time, my tastes have changed, and now I find myself more of...

The fine line of rough sex

Dear Dan: I’m your average straight 42-year-old white guy. Married for a little less than a year (second marriage for both). We have an...

Dan keeps it brief

Dear Dan: Are you incapable of concision? Your answers are too long! You blather on, often rehashing the problem (unnecessary!) before giving four words...

I accidentally snooped, now should I confront my boyfriend about what...

Dear Dan: Gay, thirtysomething male in DC. My boyfriend of three years has been acting strange — not taking his antidepression meds, says he’s...

I don’t wanna cuckold; Both sides of the story

Dear Dan: My new girlfriend blurted out that she had a cuckolding past with her ex-husband. She says her ex badgered her into arranging...

Tumblr troubles; Enjoying my boyfriend

Dear Dan: I’m a gay male college student in a healthy D/s relationship with a bisexual guy. My boyfriend posts pictures of our kink...

Q’s & A’s from Savage Love Live in Boston

A large crowd braved a snowstorm to come out to Savage Love Live at Boston’s Wilbur Theatre last week. Questions were submitted on index...

Racist partner; Gay bar bachelorette parties; Secret stash of porn featuring...

Dear Dan: I’m 33, blah blah blah, and live in a big city. I’ve been dating an age-appropriate person for a year and a...
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