Savage Love

Dan Savage fills in for Dan Savage

DEAR READERS: I’m on vacation for the next three weeks — but you won’t be reading old columns while I’m away. You’ll be getting...

Habitual cheater?; I said no; Thirsty in a small town

Dear Dan: I am currently separated. A few months after I moved out, my estranged wife found out that I cheated on her before...

Do I tell him I’m intersex? Depends.

Dear Dan: I’m 28 years old and live in the Midwest. I’m intersex, but I identify as female. I am not out about being...

He wants me; Is that you? Probably is.

Dear Dan: I’m a gay male in my late 20s. My little sister’s husband, “Peter,” is my age and bisexual. I’m not one of those...

Double time; What are you committing to?

Dear Dan: My first refractory period — the time it takes me to get ready to have sex again after my first orgasm — is...

Calling my one-night stand; Open marriage sharing

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in my late 20s. About three months ago, I had my first one-night stand. I’ve noticed my thoughts...

Sorry dude, I’m a ‘lesbian;’ Worried about my stripper friend

Dear Dan: Is it a super douchey move to pretend to be a lesbian to avoid unwanted male attention? I’m a straight single woman...

Twitter taboo; Looking for hope

Dear Dan: I recently synced my phone contacts to my Twitter account. When I was scrolling through the list of people who turned up...

Is a diaper fetish always sexual?

Dear Dan: I’ve been dating a nice guy for a month or so. Sex is good, and we’re faulty compatible in other ways, too....

Good things come in small packages

Dear Dan: I’m a 33-year-old straight guy with a small dick. I have a girlfriend of seven years. When we met, I was really...

Sanitized meeting stories; Bad advice, Dan

Dear Dan: If I first met someone on a hookup site or at a sex party and then we start seeing each other, what’s...

Should I cheat?; Queer peg in a straight hole

Dear Dan: I am a fortysomething bi woman happily married to a newly transitioned 50ish trans woman. I have a history of putting myself...
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