Savage Love

Managing partners; Mutual GGG

Dear Dan: I’m 28 years old and have been with my boyfriend (also 28) for three years. Our relationship is monogamous and vanilla. I’m...

Tell the Grindrs what you want; Threesome minus one

Dear Dan: I’m a middle-aged homo trying to figure out Grindr. Is it impolite to go on Grindr if you’re not looking for an...

Legal docs and sex play; The solvable problem

Dear Dan: I have two female sex partners who want to be breath-play dominated. I know the practice is dangerous, and I employ the...

Secret bisexuality and dating app usage; Erectile dysfunction meds

Dear Dan: I’m a 29-year-old man who desires a monogamous relationship. I’m currently in an LTR with a 29-year-old woman. Despite my feelings about...

Soft problem, hard choice

Dear Dan: My husband is nearly 20 years older than me, which was never an issue early in our relationship. However, for approximately the...

Savage answers questions from Revolution Hall

Nancy, the tech-savvy at-risk youth, two gimps, Christ on the cross, the Easter Bunny, two weeping women and the Easter Bunny’s smoking-hot leather master...

Private dungeon session?; Mismatched schedule; Bigioted inlaws

Dear Dan: My boyfriend wants to visit a private gay sex dungeon in Europe this summer but we only want to play with each...

The proper etiquette for throwing someone out of an orgy

Dear Dan: I’m a queer girl living with a male partner. This weekend, we found ourselves in an after-hours club, made some new friends,...

He’s bi and that’s ok; The sex could be better

Dear Dan: My BF and I have been dating for two years. He’s 21; I’m 20 (and female). When I noticed my boyfriend wanted...

Finding a play partner; Am I good at it?

Dear Dan: I’m a woman in my late 40s. In my early 20s, I married a much older man. We did all the requisite...

Is it OK to trust a liar?; Am I too horny?

Dear Dan: Gay guy here. Met a guy online. He came over. We had incredible sex and then a great conversation lasting several hours....

Questions from the Curious Minds Weekend in Toronto

I recently spoke at Curious Minds Weekend in Toronto at the Hot Docs Ted Rogers Cinema. Audience members submitted questions on cards before the...
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