Savage Love
Quickies
Dear Dan: This woman has gone down on me (I’m a man) more than half a dozen times in the last three months. Each...
Living your truth
Dear Dan: Living my truth permits others in my fairly conservative circles — Christian family struggling to accept a gay son, colleagues in a...
Secret perving
Dear Dan: I’ve been enjoying consensual nonmonogamy for the past two years, in part thanks to your column and podcast. I have a delightful...
#metoo bad behavior?
Dear Dan: I’m part of a nonhierarchical polycule. In a few months, one of my girlfriends will be marrying her fiancée. I’ll be attending...
The toll of mental health, using more sop, DTMFA and Dan...
Dear Dan: I’ve been in an on-again, off-again relationship for the past four years. My girlfriend has an assortment of mental-health issues — anxiety,...
Quickies
Dear Dan: I’ve been faithfully reading your column in the Chicago Reader for years, and now I’m reaching out to you about my own...
Connections
Dear Dan: Longtime Savage Love fanboy with a bit of a conundrum — and it’s your fault! I’m a bi man in my 30s....
Lopsiders
Dear Dan: Bi married man here. I was always out to my wife, but two months ago, I came out to our tight circle...
Better after
Dear Dan: In a recent column, you said you never hear from married couples whose sex life got better and more frequent over the...
Baggage
Dear Dan: You ran a letter about a gay man (“Sam”) who has been sucking off his straight friend. Sam said he’s never done...
Blown away
Dear Dan: I’m a straight guy in a LTR with a bi woman. We recently had a threesome with a bi male acquaintance. We...
Retroactive blessings
Dear Dan: Without snooping, I came across texts between my wife “Mary” and a guy “Jeremy” of a very sexual nature. While I would...
