Savage Love
Neurodiverse
Dear Dan: As a 36-year-old straight woman with autism, I am often misidentified as lesbian because my social signaling must read as masculine. I...
What happened
Dear Dan: I used to be a fan of your column, Dan, but something happened to you. Maybe it’s stress, the current political climate,...
Devastation
Dear Dan: I’m a straight man in a live-in relationship with a beautiful woman. There are no sparks in bed, and it’s been more...
Orpheum theater
I was honored to appear with Esther Perel at the Orpheum Theater in Vancouver, BC, a few weeks ago to discuss her new book,...
The daddy files
Dear Dan: I’m a 31-year-old gay man who looks 45. Most men interested in me are surprisingly up-front about expressing their desire to include...
Degrading games
Dear Dan: I am a pretty handsome gay (I have been told) and I am dating a gorgeous man. I am 34, and he...
Necking
Dear Dan: In a frank exchange early in our courtship, I told my girlfriend that I have no kinks. As a faithful reader of...
Parental controls
Dead Dan: My father passed away suddenly. I had a very idyllic childhood and was close to my father and my mother (who is...
Poly wants
Dear Dan: I’m a 25-year-old woman currently in a poly relationship with a married man roughly 20 years my senior. This has by far...
It’s bad
Dear Dan: I’m a 22-year-old straight male dating a 23-year-old woman. This is by far the most sexual relationship I’ve been in, which is...
Unanswered questions
I had a blast hosting Savage Lovecast Live at San Francisco’s Palace of Fine Arts. Audience members submitted questions before the show, and I...
Dicks deluxe
Dear Dan: A few months ago, I started dating someone. I made it clear early on that I didn’t feel comfortable being in a...
