Dear Dan: Straight female with a question. It’s about something that sometimes happens to me that I’ve never really told anyone about because it’s so weird and gross. It involves my bowel movements, so it’s not very sexy. (No offense to scat lovers, but I have zero interest in “poop play.”) After I have a normal bowel movement, I pull up my jeans. When I do that, the crotch seam presses on my clit as I begin to close the zipper, and I get what I can only describe as an intense mini-orgasm. This is directly related to the recent BM because it happens only after one. I find myself just standing there in the bathroom, holding my pants up with my hands frozen on the zipper, eyes half closed, gently pressing my jeans into my crotch while my clit just hammers out an unsolicited series of intense orgasmic spasms. It’s not really a full-on climax, rather just a dozen or so fast and strong fluttering contractions of pleasure right in my clit/pussy area. I find myself enjoying these post-poop-gasms when they happen, although it’s something I’ve kept to myself for obvious reasons. I am not complaining. I am merely curious to know if you’ve ever heard of this and if you know why and how it happens. Do other people have similar experiences?
—Possibly Odd Or Perhaps Curious Orgasm Mostly Enjoyed Regularly
Dear POOPCOMER: I shared your letter with Dr. Debby Herbenick, a research scientist at Indiana University, a sexual health educator at the Kinsey Institute, and the author of Great in Bed and numerous books about sexuality.
Dr. Herbenick’s short answer: “Genitals are magical, mysterious places of wonder.”
And her much more satisfying long answer: “There are other documented cases of people having orgasms while pooping. Most are on Internet message boards, but some have made it into the medical and scientific literature. ‘Defecation-induced orgasms’ seem to be more common than orgasms from peeing, but both kinds happen.”
Yes, yes: But why and how do defecation-induced orgasms happen?
“It’s not entirely clear, but here are some possibilities,” said Dr. Herbenick. “The pelvic nerve — which is one orgasmic pathway — links up to not only the vagina and cervix, but also the rectum and bladder. Another possibility is something called nerve ‘crosstalk.’ In essence, the genital and excretory parts are smooshed closely together, and some nerves (like the pelvic nerve) service more than one part. Thus, feelings and messages carried in the nerves can get a little muddled. For example, some people can have vaginal pain from bladder problems. Similarly, people describe genital orgasms from stimulation of nearby parts, and nerve crosstalk is thought to be part of that.” (Want to shut up an “intelligent design” creationist? Ask them to defend the illadvised, none-too-intelligent smooshing together of our excretory and reproductive systems — after making them google “obstetric fistula.”) “POOPCOMER doesn’t have to like the fact that she orgasms from pooping,” said Dr. Herbenick, “but it’s better than the opposite scenario: unintentionally pooping during orgasm. That also happens.”
Follow Dr. Herbenick on Twitter @DebbyHerbenick.
Dear Dan: You always take questions from BDSMers and cuckolds and other hardcore sexers, but will you take mine? I plead with you! Won’t you please offer some advice for me, a simple heterosexual girl having problems with her heterosexual male?!? My boyfriend always closes and locks the door behind him when he pees. It hurts my feelings! Being a part of his pissing experience would turn me on and arouse me! He claims he does this because he is pee shy. But he pees in public restrooms in front of other men! So if he knows that I like it, and if the issue isn’t about being pee shy, then why can’t he pee in front of me?!? Why is he “NO GIRLS ALLOWED” about this?!? I would be grateful for your advice on how to get him to relax with his peeing moments a little more because I’m BORED. Thanks!
—Personally Insulted Since Sexy Entrance Denied
Dear PISSED: You’re just a simple heterosexual girl who wants to be part of her boyfriend’s “pissing experience” because that would turn you on — nothing kinky or hardcore about that, no sir. You’re just after some old-fashioned, all-American, plain-vanilla voyeuristic piss play.
I’m not sure there’s anything I could say here that would persuade your boyfriend to include you in his pissing experience. If knowing that it would make his piss-freak girlfriend insanely horny doesn’t motivate a guy to unlock the door and let her watch, PISSED, he’s unlikely to be convinced by some gay dude with an advice column. (But just in case: Hey, PISSED’s BF! Open the damn door!) So if watching your boyfriend piss is really that important to you, PISSED, you’ll have to get a new boyfriend or start following the one you’ve got into public restrooms.
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