<![CDATA[Boulder - Weekly - Savage Love]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE Love]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE | Week of Jan. 23]]> I’ve had sex only three times and have found each time to be incredibly painful — even when the guy’s just using his fingers.]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> <![CDATA[Savage Love | Week of November 28, 2013]]> Dear Dan: I recently ended a relationship that lasted a year and five months. While I loved this woman, for much of the relationship she was, to varying degrees, depressed.]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> One and done — and with any luck, after seeing what a big nothing peeing on someone actually is, you’ll have a change of heart and peeing on your partner will wind up on your “once in a while, if you’re good, and only after I’ve had few beers so it’s basically just hot water” list.]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE Love]]> What is your stance on maintenance sex? I’d never thought about the issue until reading Amy Poehler’s new memoir. I didn’t find anything she said controversial, and was surprised when this quote blew up in the feminist blogosphere: “You have to have sex with your husband occasionally, even though you’re exhausted.]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE Love]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> We don’t have to be perfect to date, LACKING, but we do have to be in good working order. It doesn’t sound like either of you qualify. His abuse and abandonment issues, your self-esteem and anger issues: I think you both should address your issues in counseling — with separate counselors — for your own sakes, not for the sake of this relationship.]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> My fiancée is extremely bothered by me looking at porn. It revolves around insecurities that have gotten so bad that even other girls bother her. (We can hardly go to a beach anymore.) I don’t have any weird relationship with porn — no addiction, no violent stuff, and I look pretty infrequently.]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> My boyfriend and I have been together three years. We plan to start a family, we are very happy together, we go on many adventures together — all that good stuff. For the past year or so, I feel like I’ve been losing my sex drive. Not just toward him but in general.]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> She’s perfect. In her late teens and early 20s, she had a wild sex life. She attended sex parties, had loads of NSA hookups, sexted with random guys she met online, etc. She revealed this to me slowly and carefully out of fear that I’d look down on her, but what she didn’t know is that I have an intense cuckold interest.]]> <![CDATA[SAVAGE LOVE]]> When I was 15, I had a three-month-long sexual relationship with a 32-year-old woman. She was a friend of the family, and my parents were going through a divorce. I stayed with her for the summer, and she initiated a sexual relationship. Looking back, I can see that she had been grooming me.]]>