Fresh starts

The epidemic of gay lonliness

Savage Love

Shooting stars

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in my mid-40s, and my significant other has a cuckolding fetish. My first response was “Oh, hell no!”...

Quickies

Dear Dan: This woman has gone down on me (I’m a man) more than half a dozen times in the last three months. Each...

Living your truth

Dear Dan: Living my truth permits others in my fairly conservative circles — Christian family struggling to accept a gay son, colleagues in a...

Secret perving

Dear Dan: I’ve been enjoying consensual nonmonogamy for the past two years, in part thanks to your column and podcast. I have a delightful...

#metoo bad behavior?

Dear Dan: I’m part of a nonhierarchical polycule. In a few months, one of my girlfriends will be marrying her fiancée. I’ll be attending...

The toll of mental health, using more sop, DTMFA and Dan...

Dear Dan: I’ve been in an on-again, off-again relationship for the past four years. My girlfriend has an assortment of mental-health issues — anxiety,...

Quickies

Dear Dan: I’ve been faithfully reading your column in the Chicago Reader for years, and now I’m reaching out to you about my own...

Connections

Dear Dan: Longtime Savage Love fanboy with a bit of a conundrum — and it’s your fault! I’m a bi man in my 30s....

Lopsiders

Dear Dan: Bi married man here. I was always out to my wife, but two months ago, I came out to our tight circle...

Better after

Dear Dan: In a recent column, you said you never hear from married couples whose sex life got better and more frequent over the...

Baggage

Dear Dan: You ran a letter about a gay man (“Sam”) who has been sucking off his straight friend. Sam said he’s never done...

Blown away

Dear Dan: I’m a straight guy in a LTR with a bi woman. We recently had a threesome with a bi male acquaintance. We...
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