Bound and gagging

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Improv classes, dating apps and navigating kinks

Dear Dan: I’m a 30-year-old woman, and about a year ago I started taking improv classes to help combat my social anxiety. I met...

He’s not your friend…

Dear Dan: I’m a gay male, and one of my good friends has put me in a strange position. The friend has been married...

Pair of Jacks

Dear Dan: I have a secret: For the past three months, I’ve been attending a local Jacks club (a men-only masturbation event). As someone...

47-year-old virgins, cross-dressing and parents’ sex lives

Dear Dan: I was involved with a straight man who enjoys cross-dressing and taking explicit photos. The problem is that the props he uses...

Relationship and kink etiquette

Dear Dan: I’m a straight man and I recently got out of a relationship with a woman who would monitor my internet use to...

Needs and deeds

Dear Dan: I’m a transgender woman married to a cis woman. Is cuckolding strictly a male-being-humiliated-by-his-woman-partner thing? Or does it apply to all couples? —Cuckolding...

Fresh starts

Dear Dan: I am newly divorced and have started a relationship with a man I’ve known and deeply cared about for decades. The sex...

The epidemic of gay lonliness

Dear Dan: I’m a 40-something gay male. I’m single and cannot get a date or even a hookup. I’m short, overweight, average-looking and bald....

Shooting stars

Dear Dan: I’m a cis woman in my mid-40s, and my significant other has a cuckolding fetish. My first response was “Oh, hell no!”...

Quickies

Dear Dan: This woman has gone down on me (I’m a man) more than half a dozen times in the last three months. Each...

Living your truth

Dear Dan: Living my truth permits others in my fairly conservative circles — Christian family struggling to accept a gay son, colleagues in a...

Secret perving

Dear Dan: I’ve been enjoying consensual nonmonogamy for the past two years, in part thanks to your column and podcast. I have a delightful...
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