Savage Love

Dear Dan: I’m a 26-year-old bisexual woman with a history of self-harm. It hasn’t been much of an issue for the last few years,...

Dear Dan: Please do a public-service announcement about the Ashley Madison hack, and request that NO ONE look up information on ANYONE other than their own spouse. I’m a former AM user. I’ve been married to my wife for 20 years. We met when we were both 20 years old...

Dear Dan: Your last two columns and your last two podcasts were all about the pandemic. Everything everywhere is all about the pandemic right...

Dear Dan: I’m someone who does gay porn for a living. How do people who do gay porn meet someone who doesn’t just sexualize...

Dear Dan: I have two female sex partners who want to be breath-play dominated. I know the practice is dangerous, and I employ the...

Dear Dan: I am a super queer presenting female who recently accepted that I have desires for men. My partner of two years is bisexual...

Dear Dan: We're an adventurous, bisexual, non-monogamous, opposite-sex couple with a teenage kid living in Europe. We don't really struggle with finding and trying...

Dear Dan: I’m a straight woman in my early 30s, and I just don’t like receiving oral sex. I love giving blowjobs and can...

Dear Dan: My son has always liked handcuffs and tying people up as a form of play. He is 12 now, and the delight...

Dear Dan: My brother is a virgin and turning 30 in a few weeks. He said he wants to hire an escort just for...

Dear Dan: I’m trying to date again after back-to-back negative relationship experiences. Experiences that have made me question my own judgment and ability to...

Dear Dan: I am a male grad student who is technically engaged to a female grad student. She has numerous positive qualities, but she is repulsed by sex. She is very sensitive about her repulsion and becomes distraught when I broach the subject. She says that even the...